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More we shy away from calling a spade a spade IT will not make it hearts of citizens.

There is a problem in many parts of the world today where islam is showing its true ugly colors.

IT  has happened several times before that the moderates in the society can’t control the extremists and genocides take place .

This happens because when the secular agendas are milked for long time then  political benefits beyond any comprehensible levels then the majority community get hert and  it’s  politician’s who benefit from it but the minority community.

Today in india we are lucky that we have not reached that level and the majority community has woken up and taken a course correction in the politics of our country.

I am sure this country is secular only because Hindu’s  are in majority.

If  you don’t believe me look at our neighbors.

Why Shame ? For Pads.

I am sorry. I just wanted to clarify- I am not advocating moving around with a packet of pads freely- I am saying that a packet of pads already comes in a package, and you can take it in a normal polythene just like you take any other medicine, or any good for that matter.

I did not take any polythene as I was enraged then, but then I am against the three-four cover ups done by newspaper and black polythene. If some people want it for their privacy, then it is fine. I am using this example just as a metaphor to show the stigma attached to menstruation- if you want it in a black polythene, good, each to his own. I don’t want it, and I am okay with it being along with other goods in my shopping cart.

I am not advocating anything. nor I am being a feminist, or liberalist, or a modernist or whatever terms you are tagging. I just shared an experience, and what I wanted to convey is not to attach stigma to menstruation.

I am not telling you to not put it in a polythene. I am just saying not to make a fuss out of buying the pads. And about privacy- I know, it is a private matter, but do not make it a private ‘issue’, which cannot be talked about in public. It can be talked about, and I am talking about it, and will talk about it. 🙂 If  I offend someone, I plead them to not feel bad, I am not making a statement, I am just being who I am.

Thanks for your views. Cheerio.PS- If you still want to show you dislike the article, just click the ‘funny’ button, so that I get to know how many people don’t like it, and so that everyone understands. I go to the medical shop and ask for a sanitary Napkin.First, I myself use a euphemism to a ‘pad’. I then correct myself, and say, bhaiiya Pad chahiye.Then I think, why didn’t I just call it a pad first? What is wrong with a pad?

It does not sound wrong? Why was I so sophisticated about it?

I decide, that next time I come, I will call it a pad directly, no euphemisms. I won’t even use the company’s name until the shopkeeper asks my choice.Then he asked me the company,

I told him, Stayfree. He asked me the size. I told him. A friend of mine from college, a male friend came inside the shop.

I smiled at him. He  saw me holding the pack of pads. Then he took his pills and went on his way. He did not even talk to me. He was shy that he ‘caught’ me buying pads.Then the shopkeeper suddenly emerged with a newspaper, and two polythenes. He took a newspaper, wrapped up my pad, then took up a white polythene, and then put the white polythene in the black polythene.

.I said, “Bhaiiya, bomb nahi hai. Aur itna plastic waste mat kariye. Charas leke nahi jaa rahi.” ( Bhaiiya, it is not a bomb, and do not waste so much plastic. I am not taking hashish anyway.)

He just looked at me with a confused look.

I removed the polythene, and all the cover ups he had given the mighty packet of pads. I was not even carrying a bag. I just took the plain Stayfree packet in my hand, and I WALKED towards home. And by home I mean college.

I live in my college.Sadly the route I took inside college had nobody. Nobody could see what I had done. I just wished somebody saw me with the packet. Because I  bet their reactions would have been priceless- shocked, and flustered.Why?

Why is a packet of pad a matter of shame that it has to be covered up? Why is that it is not simply thought of as medicare? I bleed in a gap of 27 days every month and hell, so did your mother, so does your sister, so does your girlfriend. It is not a matter of shame

– it is actually a sign of the HEALTHY woman.

Please, I hold hands and I beg of you, not to buy a black polythene covered pad. Just throw it directly in the shopping basket.And my dad buys sanitary napkin for me, if my mother is unwell and I can’t go out for some reason. Guys, if you are told by your girl-friends, girlfriends, wives, sisters or mothers to buy a pack of pads- do not be ashamed. It is not a matter of shame- it is something a girl needs and it need not be a matter of shame. Please, try and be logical about this. It is not a matter of being flustered. I bleed, I need something to cover it up, and you are buying it, and I am buying, and if you are a seller you are selling it, you don’t have to cover it up under polythenes over polythenes. It just symbolises our society- covered up with hypocrisies and bullshit and whatever is underneath gets lost.Prerna Subramanian at Saturday, July 12, 2014

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